Finding Peace Through Planning: My Self-Discovery Story

Updated December 2020 | by Livv Mills | This post may contain affiliate links



If you are here, I’m sure that you have tried to understand who you are inside and out, but you are still searching for that missing piece. You are not alone. Before I began my self-discovery journey, I was lost and anxious, with no real sense of self-identity or direction in life. But before I explain what I do, you need to know why I do it.


At this point, I’m sure you’re wondering…


Is she a life-coach or something?


How could she possibly have all the answers?


Did she discover the magic formula for self-discovery? The short answer is not exactly :) Before I get into the nitty-gritty of my story, maybe you can resonate with feeling like this:

  • Never feeling good enough or like you just don’t measure up to the standards of the people around you.

  • Frustrated with feeling lost and you're sick of it…you just want to figure it all out.

  • Wishing you could magically and quickly change all the disappointing parts of yourself

  • Feeling confused by your emotions and wondering, “what the hell is wrong with me?”

  • Not knowing how to get what you want in life and feeling like your desires are just out of reach.

Because if so, then you have definitely come to the right place! It wasn’t too long ago that I was in your shoes. I was tired of going out of my mind trying to answer the burning question that most of us have…



I couldn’t figure out how to shake off the rollercoaster of thoughts and emotions that went something like…


  • Why am I so afraid to do the things that I really want to do?

  • Why do I feel like such a failure at life?

  • Why am I the way that I am? What’s wrong with me?

  • I know, I’ll change all the bad parts about myself and then I’ll be “fixed”! I’ll be HAPPY!

  • I JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY!

But what took me years to realize, won’t take you even half as long. If you want to transform the way you think and see yourself and start living the life you were meant to live…then I can’t wait to take this journey with you!

Although I am in a great place now, it wasn’t always this way:

  • I was a 21 year old college dropout with zero plans for the future

  • I was living at home with my parents

  • The first 2 businesses I started failed…miserably (I lost a lot of hope at this point)

  • I had over $30,000 worth of debt, went through a bankruptcy, and had my car repossessed

  • I had a falling out with my family and my boyfriend, and I gained over 30lbs

All of these events resulted in me having a literal mental breakdown in the Fall of 2019. I had never felt so lost and out of control. I felt like I was living the same 3 years over again for the 4th year in a row. Something had to give.

Over the years, I’ve learned that my super power is being able to teach myself anything.


I taught myself how to play the piano, how to cook, and how to crochet just to name a few.


So, during my mental breakdown, I decided to put that super power to work one more time…A last ditch effort to finally, hopefully see the light at the end of the tunnel.


So I decided to teach myself how to discover the true me…

And in do so, my journey of self-discovery has led me to:

  • Becoming a Mixologist and Whiskey Expert!

  • I am now engaged to my high school sweetheart!

  • My family and I have mended our relationship and are getting closer everyday!

  • My fiancé and I have just bought our first house!

  • I have lost 10lbs…still working on the other 20 but progress is progress!

  • I have started this blog…something I never thought I could never do but here we are folks!

  • And I created my very first product - which is actually the tool that helped me become who I am today!



And there are even more unquantifiable things that have happened since I embarked on my quest to self-understanding like:

  • I’m happier and more confident than I’ve ever been

  • I have accepted the events that have happened in my life that I previously viewed as mistakes

  • I have learned to conquer my fears …like writing for my blog for instance.

  • I know how to process my emotions and I even welcome the negative emotions

  • I know how to manage stress and anxiety

  • I seek my own approval first and no longer feel the need to be validated by other people

  • I do the hard things with the belief that I can and will get through it.

I am so happy and confident with the tools that I create because they are the reason I started this blog…the reason I am doing things I never thought I could do…the reason I understand myself 100x more than I did 5 years ago or even 1 year ago.

So, to appease your questions from earlier …

I am not a life coach or a therapist. I don’t have the magic formula to success and self-discovery. And I definitely don’t have all the answers.

I…am just a girl who had to lose herself to find herself.

Through a lot of hardship, hard work, sweat, and tears I discovered how to make peace with who I am and where I’ve been. So, I am not only sharing my experience with you, but I am also sharing the advice and the exact tool that helped me along the way.

This tools is The Discover You Planner! I knew in order for me to get to the core of me and gain a real understanding of my emotions, driving factors, purpose, and motivations…I needed a stable and practical guide to help me along the way and this self-discovery planner was born.

Want to know more about The Discover You Planner? Check it out here!



So what will you find at LivvCreative?

You’ll find printables, planners, journals, and guides to help you...


  • Discover your true self inside and out

  • Plan your life, your way

  • Organize your most important priorities and events

  • Archive your milestones and journal your thoughts

  • Hold yourself accountable for the things you can control

  • Gain mental clarity when life gets a bit hazy

  • Comfortably define what success and happiness means to you

  • Gain confidence and Practice self-care

  • Find your purpose in life and take action on it

  • Understand your strengths and weakness

  • Define your motivations and inspirations


Well, I’m glad you stuck around until the end.

Before I wrap things up I’d like to add that the journey of self-discovery doesn’t exactly have an end destination…there are a lot of stops along the way and sights to be seen, however, this journey is ongoing.

Make no mistake, my journey isn’t over either. Although I have come a long way, I know that there is still a long road ahead of me but I look forward to the people I meet, the community I build, and the lessons we can all learn along the way.

The moral of it all is…

Don’t wait to uncover and discover who you are…you only have one life to livv… :)

Take action today and leave a comment below if you enjoyed or can resonate with my story. I would love to hear your thoughts and why you have decided to begin your journey to self!

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